Grateful for the Good Fellas in my Life : Single Gal and Baseball Ginger Beard Fella

Baseball Ginger Beard Fella... where do I even begin with you? This guy I consider to be one of my life long very best friends. Even though sometimes he can drive me bonkers, because he enjoys giving me a hard time about most everything... I know that if I am having a rough day this kid will be there to cheer me right up.  Baseball Ginger Beard Fella knows how to make me feel good about myself. He always reminds me that what matters most in a person is their natural beauty and who they truly are as a human being. He always seems to find the happy in everything, and has the most contagious laugh I think I have ever heard. I think we all need to have at least one person like that in our lives. This summer we spent countless hours sitting on his lawn at ridiculous hours just chatting about life. We can talk about anything and everything, and not let it even phase us. That is one thing Baseball Ginger Beard Fella and I have in common(other than we love the Boston Red Sox)... we LOVE to gab ! No matter what I tell him he never judges me for it...even though he sometimes has to bring me to my senses when I am being stupid. But that's what great pals are for, right? He tells it like it is! Whenever we have one of our great chats I always leave feeling so much better about life. Baseball Ginger Beard Fella has at least 58 nicknames he uses  for me and me alone, and I think I might have 2 for him. You can't not smile when you are around this guy, because he makes everyone laugh, and makes everyone genuinely happy. He's always been great about counseling me about dating (he once called himself Dr. Love - - embarrassing I know) , and helping me realize that I deserve only the best and that I shouldn't settle for anything less. I am so blessed to have great guy friends like Baseball Ginger Beard Fella, to put up with me, and to remind me that life is meant to be happy... you don't have to change for people, be yourself and the people you love will flock around you... you don't always have to be serious, you can laugh and find joy in the small things (like baseball and big chew bubblegum)... and to remind me that there are good fellas out there in this world who are looking out for ya.

Grateful for the Good Fellas in my Life : Single Gal and PumpkinChocolate Chip Cookie Fall Fella

 I believe that every person on this earth has one other person on this earth where they can say that they are their other half. That is Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookie Fall Fella, for me. Sometimes I swear we have the same brain. When Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookie Fall Fella, and I lived in the same area we had so many great times and so many great laughs. We grew up in the same area, and when he returned from his LDS mission we became even closer as friends at college. He always made me feel okay with my goofy awkward self, and in reality helped me embrace it. We always seemed to kill it at the game Apples to Apples, and somehow would always pick each other's card... Everyone thought we were cheating... But we weren't ( we only cheated at Phase 10 ). We would order and consume outrageous amounts of food, and be okay with it, and would laugh at ourselves all the time. We would talk about fall, and he would sneak mine and my roommates pumpkin scented lotion, only because he was obsessed with its scent.

I had him hide over 200+ Easter eggs in my house once and he was totally cool with it( we found eggs for months, apparently he's an awesome Easter Bunny). We had nick names for countless people around us (such as NAG or Nice Arms Guy, who shared a class with us and whose arms we still stalk ab.. Err I mean talk about to this day ;) ). Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookie Fall Fella always made my day brighter, and we shared so many inside jokes. It's always so refreshingly nice to have a friend who you can tell all of your funny life incidents to, and have them relate to so many of them. The gal who scoops him up, is going to be one lucky gal. It's fellas like this that are worth spending time with, and who leave such a great and everlasting impact on your life.. And to me, in my life, Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookie Fall Fella, did just that.

Grateful for the Good Fellas in my Life : Single Gal and Arkansas LawEnforcement Ranger Fella

Arkansas Law Enforcement Ranger Fella, will always hold a big space in my heart. This man is the most respectful, witty, big hearted, "down right the best person I know"... Fella. :) One summer, we worked at the same national park, and that is where we became great friends. I was fresh out of High School, and it was a common thing to have a crush on the, oh so handsome Arkansas Law Enforcement Ranger Fella (I mean whoosh! Do you blame the gals for that? ;) ). But even though he was handsome, I always saw him as one of my life long friends. I knew we would always stay in touch with each other, no matter where either of our lives took us. Over the years, this has been true.We haven't seen each other in years! And no, we may not talk everyday, every week, or even every month.. but when I do receive one of his phone calls, we talk like we do talk everyday. And I can honestly say that the timing to his phone calls have never been more perfect in my life. They have been the answer to many silent prayers, on a hard discouraging day.

Its not often you can find someone you can talk to about anything and everything with. After talking to this fella for awhile, it lifts my spirits, and makes my day a bit brighter. One thing with Arkansas Law Enforcement Ranger Fella , that has always stood out to me, is that he always respected me for my values. Now.. we are both of different faiths, but yet he has always liked to see where I stand on many things, and never has he looked down upon me. He always reminds me of what a good girl I am, and how that is a attractive thing in a gal. There was a time I was going through a really tough time with a fella and it took a toll on my self confidence.. well one day, around that time in my life, I was texting Arkansas Law Enforcement Ranger Fella.. and I have no idea what we were talking about or how it got brought up, but I know he knew I was having a rough time with where I was at.. and to this day I still have the message saved and can hear his Arkansas drawl laced throughout the text :) :

"Pssh I've been a lotta places. I hold you in high regard. Very pretty, a good friend, woman of God. That's hard to beat! Trophy wife material if I do say so:)"

. Whenever I read it (usually when I'm sad because of a fella), it just makes me laugh. If I am who I am, that will always be good enough for the Prince Charming Fella that's out there for me. Arkansas Law Enforcement Ranger Fella gives me hope, that I am enough, always. And for that, I will forever be grateful for. In the world nowadays, you may think handsome guys like himself might say the opposite of the things I've shared with you, but not Arkansas Law Enforcement Ranger Fella , he(in my eyes)is a good fella.

The Single Gal Believes in Enduring Love, and Doesn't Want AnythingLess Than That

I watched this video one day while I was on break at work. I couldn't help it... but I cried. How beautiful true and everlasting love is. Every Gal longs for a love that lasts forever and beyond the title waves of life. I wanted to put a earth shattering quote right about --->here<---- in my post, about loving someone else more than you love yourself... but I found that when I googled that phrase, all I recieved in my search engine, were links about 'Men Losing Attraction', 'How to Love Someone Who Doesn't Love You Anymore', '10 Quotes on How to Love Yourself Better', and etc. Sad isn't it? That true love is something thrown by the wayside? The thing about true love is that it is something that is acquired through time... and patience. Nothing will be perfect.. including love. Love is selfless.. Not selfish. It is when you love somebody so much to see past all that they aren't, is where true love comes in. I think this video can sum up all the words I'd want in a husband someday. Nuff Said.

The Single Gal is Grateful to be a Daughter of God

Dating, and being a Single Gal can be such a task in itself. That's why I was inspired to blog about being a Single Gal. To lift heavy hearts with laughter, to make other Gal's out there know they are not alone, and to make sure all Gal's know of their great worth. The dating phase of life can be hard, let's face it. Such is a time to discover who you are, what you stand for, and where you want to be. I too find myself,trying to figure out why I am here, where I am going, and who I want to be. Purpose. Its what everyone whats to feel. A many time, people think their purpose is to find love. Yes, this is a part of life, but it is not the sole purpose of it. We each have a purpose, and it is our right to figure out that purpose. Living for something, for a purpose, is so much more fulfilling than living for the hope of achieving someone's unreachable love. Happy is the heart of living for the betterment of others, and reaching outside ourselves to help other's on their way. Finding a purpose doesn't happen overnight. It takes time. It takes patience. It takes persistence. And it takes an example. Being a Single Gal means too, that you are a Daughter of God. The cool thing about being a Daughter of God, is that it is everlasting. What a comfort. You are never alone through all of this. Through the heartaches, through the discouragement, through the trials, and even through the happy joyful times.. The Lord is there. ..always.. and forever.. And his Son, Jesus Christ.. has felt ALL. There are times when I feel like there is no one in the world who knows how I feel. Guess what? Christ does. He understands. And I claim him as my Best Friend.

I know this Single Gal, would not be the Gal she is today if it weren't for her Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I once thought it was silly to talk about things going on in my life with the Lord when I talk to him through prayer. But its not. I'm a Daughter of God, and he is my Father in Heaven. And aren't Fathers supposed to be interested in their Daughter's lives? Yes. And he is! He is the Prince of Peace and Understanding. He is Love. He is always there. I could write a million and one blog posts about being a Single Gal, and offer some laughter and some understanding. But yet, I can't cover everything that every Gal feels, and my posts can only mend so much. Christ mends all. If your heart is broken, your trials are heavy, or you have no one to turn to.. turn to your Savior. He is your very best friend. I promise.

One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Scenes from his life flashed across the sky and he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand, one belonging to him and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life had flashed before him, he recalled that at the lowest and saddest times of his life there was only one set of footprints. Dismayed, he asked,"Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. I don't understand why, when I needed you most, you would leave me."

The Lord replied, "My precious child. I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering when you saw only one set of footprints... That was when I carried you." Poem, Footprints

I am the Single Gal, and I am a Daughter of God.

The Single Gal Thinks, That the Idea of Said Questing Sucks... Period.

When being a Single Gal, I often find myself going through the questing(dating) phase in my life in a very confusing manner. Not to be a downer on the whole idea of the quest to find my Prince Charming Fella... but the quest sucks. Over the years I have found it to be quite hard to find the right fellas to date, hence the reason I am still the Single Gal.

It is just simply frustrating to go on dates with fellas you see absolutely no future in, and even worse, when you see a future with them from a distance, then when you're just being on a quest together, you realize they aren't what you want--or things just flat out don't work out *insert depression face here*. Seriously one of the biggest let downs ever. I have expressed my thoughts on this topic to several people, and I feel I receive about the same response every time... "Oh Hunny-- that's why you date, to see who you do and don't want to date..", "It's okay, someday, when you find that right person, it will just click and you won't have to worry about it anymore.." ... Easier said than done folks.

But lately I have been thinking about what those people have said to me, and maybe just maybe they're right. This Single Gal loves the quote that kinda goes like this...

"Love is like a butterfly. If you chase or run after it, it flies away. So go on with minding your business and being on your way.. and when you're least expecting it, it'll land right on your shoulder."--Unknown--

That quote has been on my mind a lot lately, and I'm not sure why. But it makes me wonder about all of the other Single Gals out there, who maybe feel at times as disheartened and discouraged as I, The Single Gal, sometimes (by sometimes, I might mean I hate questing(dating)) feel. Well.. guess what.. this post is for all the Disheartened&Discouraged Single Gals out there. In a weird way, it is kind of a comfort to know that there are other people in This Here World of our's, that are going through the same thing we all are. We're all probably going to go on crappy dates, we're all probably going to feel a heart break, we're all probably going to cry over a Fella who doesn't deserve our tears, we're all probably going to experience some loneliness,and overall we're all probably going to be Single Gal's(unless you're a Fella) at some point in our lives. In other words.. there are many Gals who know how you feel. It's good to talk to those Single Gals, because its good to know that you are probably just normal and you shouldn't be so hard on your self for feeling so down about this questing business. Keep your chin up, all quests come to an end. I know so many Remarkable Single Gals in my life. I was asking myself how they became so remarkable, and the only thing I could come up with is... they did something with their lives. As easy as it may be to slump into the common Single Gal stereotype, where you sit around with your life wondering 'why oh why you am I single?!'... it is better to revert yourself completely from becoming that crazy Obsessed W/my Singleness Gal. That Gal is neither attractive or (Heavens) date-able. DO NOT BE THAT GAL! please. One thing I've tried out this year, is a bucket list. 213 things to do before the year 2013 is over. I did this #1, for fun and to challenge myself. #2, to try different things outside of my comfort zone, and become a more rounded person. And #3, to stay busy. I had a very wise man tell me once, that the key to dating is making yourself a more attractive person. Sounds shallow right? Depends on how you take it. Well what he went on to explain was that when he was in the dating phase of life, he always found a girl more attractive if she was doing something with her life.

When he first told me that, I thought he was referring career and school wise. I'm sure that could be the case for some Fellas, but he went on to say that if a Gal was progressing in some way in life, doing something new, working towards something,or for that matter doing ANYTHING to stay busy with life,it made her a more attractive Gal. Isn't a person more interesting and attractive when you ask the question, "What's new?" and they actually tell you something cool they've been doing with their life? Rumor has it that Prince Charming Fella's like that kinda stuff in a Gal too. So..... Single Gals, do something with life, focus on something other than your singleness... I PROMISE you'll be happier AND more attractive when you do. Do not settle for anyone less than who you can become.All you Remarkable Single Gals... KEEP ON KEEPIN' ON, it WILL be worth it.

the Single Gal does not love The Creeper Fellas

There comes a time in any Single Gal's life when the said Creeper Fella comes a lurking. And boy does the thought of that make your skin crawl.. Unfortunately, the Creeper Fella is always bound to come around. "How on earth can I avoid these types of humans in my life?", you might question to yourself. Well, as the Single Gal, I myself wish I knew the answer to said question. Call me rude, but my method of getting rid of the Creeper Fella is by making myself become the most unattractive human alive. If a fella comes a creepin', where is it said that I had to be nice? I mean, I see myself as a nice person, but if a guy has enough nerve to come over and make me feel so uncomfortable just to have a chance with me, why should I give him any of my respect? So my advice for any Single Gal out there is.. don't put up with the Creeper Fella. If the creeps have been creepin' from the start of mankind, then you better believe you ALWAYS can shut them down.. turn them away.. OR if needs be, get some help from a 'Nother Fella Friend to get them AWAY. Unfortunately, though, the creep specimens are comparable to flies. We wonder why The Big Guy Upstairs put them here... but whatever their purpose, they sure are annoying!!