The Single Gal Thinks, That the Idea of Said Questing Sucks... Period.

When being a Single Gal, I often find myself going through the questing(dating) phase in my life in a very confusing manner. Not to be a downer on the whole idea of the quest to find my Prince Charming Fella... but the quest sucks. Over the years I have found it to be quite hard to find the right fellas to date, hence the reason I am still the Single Gal.

It is just simply frustrating to go on dates with fellas you see absolutely no future in, and even worse, when you see a future with them from a distance, then when you're just being on a quest together, you realize they aren't what you want--or things just flat out don't work out *insert depression face here*. Seriously one of the biggest let downs ever. I have expressed my thoughts on this topic to several people, and I feel I receive about the same response every time... "Oh Hunny-- that's why you date, to see who you do and don't want to date..", "It's okay, someday, when you find that right person, it will just click and you won't have to worry about it anymore.." ... Easier said than done folks.

But lately I have been thinking about what those people have said to me, and maybe just maybe they're right. This Single Gal loves the quote that kinda goes like this...

"Love is like a butterfly. If you chase or run after it, it flies away. So go on with minding your business and being on your way.. and when you're least expecting it, it'll land right on your shoulder."--Unknown--

That quote has been on my mind a lot lately, and I'm not sure why. But it makes me wonder about all of the other Single Gals out there, who maybe feel at times as disheartened and discouraged as I, The Single Gal, sometimes (by sometimes, I might mean I hate questing(dating)) feel. Well.. guess what.. this post is for all the Disheartened&Discouraged Single Gals out there. In a weird way, it is kind of a comfort to know that there are other people in This Here World of our's, that are going through the same thing we all are. We're all probably going to go on crappy dates, we're all probably going to feel a heart break, we're all probably going to cry over a Fella who doesn't deserve our tears, we're all probably going to experience some loneliness,and overall we're all probably going to be Single Gal's(unless you're a Fella) at some point in our lives. In other words.. there are many Gals who know how you feel. It's good to talk to those Single Gals, because its good to know that you are probably just normal and you shouldn't be so hard on your self for feeling so down about this questing business. Keep your chin up, all quests come to an end. I know so many Remarkable Single Gals in my life. I was asking myself how they became so remarkable, and the only thing I could come up with is... they did something with their lives. As easy as it may be to slump into the common Single Gal stereotype, where you sit around with your life wondering 'why oh why you am I single?!'... it is better to revert yourself completely from becoming that crazy Obsessed W/my Singleness Gal. That Gal is neither attractive or (Heavens) date-able. DO NOT BE THAT GAL! please. One thing I've tried out this year, is a bucket list. 213 things to do before the year 2013 is over. I did this #1, for fun and to challenge myself. #2, to try different things outside of my comfort zone, and become a more rounded person. And #3, to stay busy. I had a very wise man tell me once, that the key to dating is making yourself a more attractive person. Sounds shallow right? Depends on how you take it. Well what he went on to explain was that when he was in the dating phase of life, he always found a girl more attractive if she was doing something with her life.

When he first told me that, I thought he was referring career and school wise. I'm sure that could be the case for some Fellas, but he went on to say that if a Gal was progressing in some way in life, doing something new, working towards something,or for that matter doing ANYTHING to stay busy with life,it made her a more attractive Gal. Isn't a person more interesting and attractive when you ask the question, "What's new?" and they actually tell you something cool they've been doing with their life? Rumor has it that Prince Charming Fella's like that kinda stuff in a Gal too. So..... Single Gals, do something with life, focus on something other than your singleness... I PROMISE you'll be happier AND more attractive when you do. Do not settle for anyone less than who you can become.All you Remarkable Single Gals... KEEP ON KEEPIN' ON, it WILL be worth it.